It seems to me like this topic has come up a lot during the past few weeks and I wanted to share my ‘two pence’ on it!
As women, especially mothers, we need to stop hating on childless or single women! Just because some of us choose to or have tonlive child-free, it doesn’t mean we can’t be well rounded, successful & fulfilled adults!
Just look at all these incredible women, who shape and shake the world – from Mother Teresa, Oprah, Angela Merkle, Jennifer Anniston and UK’s newest prime minister Theresa May! All these women have this in common: they never gave birth! So what?? They all have and will leave a legacy behind them…
Motherhood is a choice some of us get to experience – and yes we love it! It changes us and it grows us, in a way nothing else does…but ultimately, when our children leave our homes we are left being the same as before…so it’s important to retain our individual identity. It’s important to be enthusiastic about other things apart from our kids. Its important to cultivate a hobby or keep a job, and most of all to remain a social and active citizen of this world!
My key message here is that it doesn’t matter whether you have kids or not! At the end of the day, if what you do makes you feel happy and successful and keeps you giving yourself to the world – (whatever your definition of success is) than that should be enough!
Having children doesn’t make you more or less than any other human being out there – and to some women their work is their ‘baby’ (whether they chose that path or were forced on it by their own circumstances).
So to all moms out there – let’s just give it a rest…yeah? …and let’s be proud and support all women who do great things for our society – mothers or not!
Going back to work…one of the key conversation topics between new moms. To go or not to go back to work, when is the right time to do so, and who will look after the baby once you do go back to work?
So many questions and I am afraid not one right answer!
A wise lady from work who has kids once wrote on my maternity leave card ‘come back to work when you feel like taking a break’ – and I kid you not – when I received that card (being in the early weeks of motherhood) I could totally relate to what she wrote. Such truth she has spoken…
There comes a time when we have to make a decision, and for me not going back to work has never been an option! I happen to love my job and wouldn’t have it any other way. Putting the money factor aside, I think job satisfaction is important when you have a baby, as if you have a job you love you will go back to it – if not – well then I am sure you’ll feel your time is better spent looking after the little one.
I still have a few months left of my maternity leave (luckily in the UK we get a year off) but I actually miss it a little bit. As much as I love my daughter I look forward to going back to my cool job 🙂
I also think it will be very healthy for my baby girl to go to nursery at 1 and to start socialising with other kids. It can definitely do her no harm, and I am sure we will both be better for it in the long term. How do you feel about this? Will you go back to work?
One dilemma I faced during my pregnancy, was how could I stay fashionable whilst growing another human being inside me…trust me it wasn’t easy. Whilst it pretty much took my entire pregnancy to find the right shops where I could buy decent maternity clothes, time passed and I gave birth…so I was left with all this shopping knowledge that serves me no purpose anymore.I really hope it helps you however, if (like me) you’ve taken to the internet to try and find the best stores for maternity wear. Search no more…
- My absolute favourite has to be JoJoMamanBebe.com, who does beautiful maternity dresses, tops, trousers and office wear that are reasonably priced ($$).
- If however you are looking for an elegant dress for a special occasion, like a wedding, or your own baby shower, look no further than British designer Tiffany Rose.
- And for the real fashionistas, who care about style and labels as much as I do – if you happen to be in the US (NYC to be precise), the Century21 store at Ground Zero in Manhattan has a fabulous collection of maternity wear on it’s top floor (6th floor). Well worth the trip up the escalators – you wont be sorry!
- For essential and every day leggings, jeans, etc you have good old trusty H&M Maternity (one of the few that still have a maternity section in their high-street stores and in the UK the Next Online Maternity section (who deliver in less than 24 hrs). If you live in the US you must not forget about trusty old Target
- There are plenty of other cool stores around, some pricier than others, but the ones above are the ones I have had first hand experience with and was really happy. However it might be worth also checking out:
- Seraphine.com (luxury wear)
- Apeainthepod.com (my favourite US Maternity brand)